The Compromises No INFJ Will Ever Regret Making
Through the habit of prioritizing others, often at the detriment to themselves, INFJs tend to compromise their needs and wants. With that being said, compromisation is nothing new to this personality type, and still, sometimes they can end up deeply regretting this recurring choice. However, then there are the necessary compromises that INFJs never regret..
The compromise of their high-set expectations
If there’s one thing the INFJ can be faulted for, it’s their need for perfectionstic and idealistic performance. Whether their expectations are placed on themselves, their future projections or the people they rely on, INFJs can’t help but to place their at-times unrealistic presumptions on the matter.
Luckily, they know this about themselves, and can often compromise these expectations when they see fit. When they’ve worked up an imaginative future-scenario in their heads that’s incredibly realistic, only to find that when they arrive at that future destination in their lives, it’s nothing as they’ve imagined, they have no choice but to compromise with the reality of the matter.
While some INFJs can end up disappointed, over time they learn that to live life in the moment, and to focus on the strengths of others rather than their perceived short-comings is a much better approach for their overall happiness.
The compromise of their social status
They say without the appropriate networking, connections and social status, you can’t go very far in today’s world. They say success is all about the more people you know and just how important those people are in society.
With this belief, people often compromise their mental health, their connection to self, and their independence for the sake of this social power. For the introverted and intuitive INFJ however, this concept is all backward.
While they understand the importance of community, INFJs often compromise the position they’re expected to hold within their social groups for the sake of their solitude. Despite having the necessary skill set, motivation and social skills for climbing to the top of the professional and social ladder, they often compromise that potential dream for the sake of the deeper satisfaction they long for in life.
They much prefer deeper connections with individuals and small groups rather than maintaining connections built on ingenuity and self-gain. And while they may look at those in higher positions as having something they don’t have, they know it’s all in their willingness to put up with fakery, leaving the INFJ with no room for regret for their choices.
The compromise of their beliefs
With strong beliefs and an unshakable open mindedness, INFJs can be found caught between putting their close-held knowledge above learning about alternative possibilities. Luckily, their innate knowledge-thirsty nature allows them to compromise their initial beliefs in the hopes of finding something they can closer relate with.
This expansive approach may seem counterintuitive to people who see their views as the end-all-be-all, however, no matter how seriously the INFJ takes themselves, they will always leave room for a different approach or mentality.
While they say that values and beliefs live right in the core of each individual, some of the INFJ’s deepest beliefs revolve around the very fact that they’re not always right. They feel humbled by that fact, and the knowing that the brilliance of their fellow humans may in fact have connected different dots due to their life experience.
And should the INFJ be convinced of these opposing findings, the INFJ will happily adopt them as their own. Or at the very least, come to a mutual conclusion of agreeing to disagree without the understanding that everyone should have their own views.
The compromise of their comfort zones
Speaking of compromising their beliefs for possible alternatives, on a grander scale, INFJs will never regret compromising the default go-to of their comfort zones for the sake of experiencing something that scares them.
Despite having to fight against their screaming inner avoidance in the moments before they take the leap into the unknown, the INFJ rarely regrets what they discover on the other side. In fact, this is one of the best compromises this dreamer personality type can make in their lives.
Whether it’s a nagging dream that won’t go un-experienced like moving across the country, setting out for a solo travel, or even getting to know someone they’ve been pondering on. Or be it the milestone in their self-growth journey, such as taking a step in the right direction for their health or expanding their professional skill set.
INFJs do have a deep need for alone time and solitude, but when they have an itch to flee their precious nest of comfort, they’re usually met with new lessons, new connections and a new vigor for life.
The compromises they make in loving relationships
Speaking of the preference for close connections based on genuinity, INFJs will do a lot for the people they hold close to their hearts. One of which is the compromise they make to the preferences they have for how they like to live their day-to-day life.
While this occurs to a certain extent when prioritizing their immediate friends and family, there’s nothing quite like the compromises they will make when their normally solitude-based life is replaced with a close romantic connection.
In fact, since they’re known as the mediator type, most INFJs have a history of making self-sacrificing accommodations for their partners. This type of ‘compromise’ is usually less of a ‘middle-ground’ approach and more of a regretful over-giving scenario. However, luckily, it’s not always an uneven balance of give and take.
And when the connection is built on more of a balanced foundation, INFJs will happily compromise their go-to way of living for the sake of their lover. In fact, in these rewarding romantic-based compromises, this personality type will find that they’re able to expand their interests and even adopt new ways of doing things that last regardless of the state of the relationship.
The compromise they make for nonconformity
INFJs make compromises in their lives that other personality types wouldn’t even consider, nevermind relate to. Due to their truth-seeking ways, this personality type can end up compromising both the comfort that comes with blissful ignorance and the ease that comes with living life through conformity.
There’s a special kind of challenge that comes with refusing to go with the crowd by instead opting to be the black sheep of society as well as their families. The INFJ knows this struggle first-hand and often from a very young age.
Yet, through the forbidden knowledge and alternative approaches to living for the sake of their overall health and well-being, there is never any regret attached to the compromises they make. In fact, some INFJs would argue that when it comes down to it, they have no choice but to take the road less traveled for the sake of staying true to themselves.
A road that comes with many compromises to the connections they have with their family, the judgments they receive from others, and the overall loneliness that comes with this unavoidable perspective they have on life.
The compromise of their need for reassurance
Whether someone’s been in an unhealthy relationship, lost an unfair bet, or has been on the unfortunate side of a targeted attack, the need for reassurance of being faultless is a fair approach to closure. However, most times, that aspect of closure never comes in the way we need it.
And for the conflict-avoidant counselor-type INFJ, who can usually see all sides to a conflict quite fairly, they know this to be true first-hand. In fact, this is a compromise they’ve had to make time and time again for the sake of their own mental healing in life.
Since they’re often the ones to be walked over rather than the ones doing the walking, they’ve had to make the compromise of needing that specific type of closure by learning to let go.
Despite their need to analyze past conflicts for days, weeks or even months before this conclusion is met, INFJs rarely hold grudges. Although they don’t necessarily forgive and forget, they can certainly forgive and move-on in a healthy manner, regardless of the absence of an apology. And lastly..
The compromise of their goals for the greater good
Speaking earlier on the INFJ’s high expectations they set out for themselves and their future, this personality type certainly holds some of their greater life goals with utmost importance. They can end up being slightly competitive through their determination, and may end up compromising by playing out some of the most implausible actions they never thought they’d take.
However, when it comes to their morals and need for contributing to the greater good of humanity, the INFJ personality type will happily compromise these deep set goals when they get an inkling that it goes against their ethics.
Whether it’s a job position, a relationship or a life choice they deem fitting, the virtuous INFJ will compromise their initial goals to remain true to their moral high ground. Luckily, the choice is usually a change in direction is usually a blessing in disguise.